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Getting the most out of the chat with your doc during peri and menopause
19 August 2024
Dr Anne Thomson
Getting the most out of the chat with your doc during peri and menopause
Perimenopause and menopause can feel like a wild hormonal roller coaster, and let’s be honest, it’s not always easy to talk about. Unfortunately, this phase is often not well handled by some doctors, and studies show that in Australia alone, over 85% of Australian women with peri and menopause symptoms are not receiving appropriate treatments. So, it’s super important to know how to communicate your symptoms and advocate for yourself during consultations. Here’s your guide to making the most of your doctor visits and ensuring you get the care you deserve.
- Prepare Ahead of Time
Before your appointment, jot down all your symptoms. Everything from mood swings, hot flushes, night sweats, and insomnia to anxiety and memory lapses. No symptom is too small. Keep a symptom diary for a few weeks to track their frequency and severity. This will help you paint a clear picture for your doctor.
- Be Direct and Honest
When you’re in the consultation room, don’t hold back. Be upfront about what you’re experiencing. Start with something like, “I’ve been experiencing a range of symptoms that I believe are related to perimenopause/menopause, and I’d like to discuss them.” Being direct sets the tone that you’re serious about getting help.
- Ask Questions
Don’t be shy to ask questions. If your doctor mentions a treatment or test, ask about its purpose, benefits, and potential side effects. If they suggest lifestyle changes, ask for specifics. Questions like “How will this help?” and “What are my other options?” are totally fair game.
- Advocate for Yourself
If you feel your concerns are being brushed off, speak up. You can say, “I don’t feel like my symptoms are being taken seriously, and it’s affecting my quality of life. Can we explore this further?” It’s your health, and you have every right to be heard.
- Bring Backup
Consider bringing a friend, partner, or family member to your appointment for support. They can help you remember details, ask additional questions, and provide emotional support. Sometimes, having another person there can help reinforce the importance of your concerns.
- Know When to Move On
If your doctor consistently dismisses your symptoms or makes you feel unheard, it might be time to find a new one. Trust your instincts. Your health is too important to stay with a healthcare provider who isn’t listening.
- Find the Right Doctor
Look for a doctor who specialises in women’s health, particularly menopause. Check online reviews, ask for recommendations, and don’t hesitate to call the office to ask if the doctor has experience with menopause management. Menopause Societies in most countries have a “find a doctor” section on their websites. That’s often a good place to start. You deserve a doctor who truly listens and understands this phase of life.
- Utilise Online Resources
There are fantastic online communities and resources for women going through perimenopause and menopause. Websites like The Australasian Menopause Society (AMS) offer valuable information and advice.
- Follow Up
After your appointment, follow up with your doctor if you have any additional questions or if your symptoms change. Keeping an ongoing dialogue can help manage your symptoms more effectively and show your doctor that you’re proactive about your health.
- Self-Care and Support
Remember, self-care is crucial during this time. Connect with other women going through the same thing, join support groups, and share your experiences. Sometimes just knowing you’re not alone can make a big difference.
In Conclusion
Navigating perimenopause and menopause can be challenging, but with the right approach and support, you can get the care you need. Prepare, be direct, ask questions, and don’t hesitate to advocate for yourself. And if your doctor isn’t the right fit, don’t be afraid to move on. You deserve a doctor who listens and supports you every step of the way.
Keep pushing for your health, and remember, you’ve got this!
